After nearly eight years of marriage I’ve learned blessing your spouse and making them happy doesn’t require expensive vacations, gifts, or grand gestures. We’ve never been able to afford those things yet we have a wonderful marriage. It’s the little things my husband does for me that makes me feel loved, blessed, and appreciated.
I often feel like he’s so much better at thinking of me than I am of him so I’ve purposed lately to be better. Less selfish. Ha! I’ve come up with four simple ways you and I can bless our husbands. These cost little to nothing except some effort.
1. Greet him nicely when he gets home from work (or when you get home from work)
I’m not talking about the irritatingly iconic 1950s picture of the wife with perfectly coiffed hair who managed to time dinner just right, have the kids playing contently and the house spotless, giving her husband a peck on the cheek. Although, I seriously doubt that image was real even in the idealistic 1950s.
I’m talking about giving your husband a warm hello and genuinely telling him that you’re glad to see him without launching into a diatribe of what went wrong that day and why you need a break from __________. You can fill in the blank. In my case, it’s often whichever kid behaved the naughtiest that day.
In the early days of our marriage when my husband would get home, I’d run to the door and plant a kiss on his lips or at least give him a squeeze when we saw each other after work. It hit me the other day that I don’t do it that much anymore. My husband is my best friend but sometimes I’m not so friendly.
It’s not always practical or possible to stop in the middle of some tasks such as nursing a baby but we can still be nice.
2. Stock the fridge with his favorite beverage or the pantry with his snack of choice
So practical. So easy. Moving on.
3. Send him an encouraging text when you’re apart during the day
Let him know you appreciate him or thank him for working so hard for your family. Even a simple “I love you” can do wonders. You know what words would encourage your husband so use those words to build him up!
4. Do a chore that’s normally his responsibility
Like many American families, my husband and I share the household duties. The bulk of things such as the laundry, cooking, and cleaning fall to me but he takes care of things like taking out the trash, paying the majority of the bills, and car maintenance.
My husband is good at pitching in with the dishes when he sees that I could use some help. In the same way, I could take out the trash when I see it piling up. He’s been going through a busy season with work and I know it would bless him if I took out the trash once in a while.
Have you ever heard of the book called The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman? According to Chapman, each person has a primary love language in which they communicate love and receive love. The languages are Acts of Service, Quality Time, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, and Receiving Gifts.
My husband and I both read The 5 Love Languages before we got married and I think it helped us understand each other better. You can go to http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ to take a quick free assessment. Words of Affirmation and Quality Time are tied for my primary love language. The bottom one on my list, Physical Touch, happens to be my husband’s primary love language. Go figure.
Discovering your and your partner’s love language may be a good way to find out how to make them feel loved and blessed. Obviously, there’s more to marriage than that but it’s a start.
So there you have it. Four simple ways to bless your other half. What specific things can you think of doing that would bless your husband?